Posted by: Alton Rocker | May 12, 2011

Divorce-The Fallout

Is Christian premarital counseling really necessary?  This author thinks so.  He has some excellent insight about divorce and the fallout it causes. 

Too often divorce is looked upon by those in a difficult marriage as an easy way out. But is it really that easy? The trouble is people don’t consider the cost when viewing divorce as a way out of the troubled marriage. 

When in the throws of the anguish of a troubled marriage many seek a way to make the pain go away. They feel like they are in a downward spiral and just want relief. They reach out for the simplest way to obtain relief. They feel if they could just get out of the situation that all the pieces of their life would come back together and they would be happier. 


From an emotional standpoint, what is the cost? The damage emotionally can be overwhelming. There can be feelings of being a failure. You can feel very inadequate and awkward in group settings. Now the friends you had as a married couple seem strange to be around. The conversations are sometimes uncomfortable. 


Physically you could get depressed. You may shut off from the world. Eating habits are disrupted in an unhealthy way. You can lose interest in activities and just quit taking care of yourself. 


Financial costs are seldom calculated when considering divorce. It’s not just the cost of the attorney you have to consider. You have to move in most cases. Where will you go? What can you afford? What will your bills be? What about the kid’s clothes, school supplies and food? What about the child support? Will it be enough? Can you afford to pay that much? 

Sounds pretty dismal doesn’t it? Surely this outcome wouldn’t happen to me? This has to be an over exaggeration of the truth. Well it’s not. I have been through almost every one of these situations and circumstances following a divorce. As I look back on it, I wished I taken the advice of others and sought out premarital counseling and especially Christian premarital counseling. Had I done adequate premarital counseling I would have had a better picture of what to expect and a better way to handle trials when they arose.  For more information on the best resources available go to



  1. This hits the nail on the head. Sure some things to think about.

  2. Few people realize the full impact of divorce until long after it’s too late. 8 hours of premarital counseling can help prevent years of suffering. Keep up the good work.

  3. As a child of divorced parents I can honestly say that divorce is probably the most difficult on the children.

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